It would be easy - relax in solitude. No need to lock on to someone else's vacation and holidays, there is no need to sacrifice personal plans for family ploys, etc., etc. Unfortunately, in practice it is not so radiantly. Nowadays, almost all resort infrastructure is aimed at families with children. This implies a certain specificity (eg, animation), which is not always suitable single adults. After all, tastes and habits of adults held in the profession and the lives of people rather exacting - should only look at the social portrait of our hero.

One in the field

The "standard" modern loner - a man of middle age (25-45 years), well-educated citizen, belonging to the middle-class, engaged in intellectual work. Often this is a workaholic (according to American researchers, it is "singleton" (English term for individuals that have become international) tend to recycle - up to 30%). In this case, more than half of them are aware of their situation as "wrong", and are even willing to work with professional therapists. For example, according to a poll known in runet Forum "Solitude", the usefulness of the presence therein of a psychologist recognize 75% of participants. Accordingly, the majority of lone wants to get out of their social niche and to get a friendship or partnership.
However, as already mentioned, and singles are different. For some, this condition seems painful, but otherwise, on the contrary, it stimulates creativity. Someone is trying to get a pair, and someone needed to complete privacy. Assess the level of experience, in general, it is easy for this develop appropriate tests. The most popular of them - a test of Russell D. and M. Ferguson - fairly simple and you can very accurately describe their feelings:
Specify how often you experience the condition, as described in each following paragraph. Circle the score for each item:

; Calculate the sum of the scores on questions 2, 3, 7, 8, 11, 12, 13, 14, 17, 18. In response to questions 1, 4, 5, 6, 9, 10, 15, 16, 19, 20 generate a permutation in reverse order (1-4, 2-3, 3-2, 4-1).
Those who scored less than 22 points may see themselves as people with a very low degree of loneliness. From 22 to 32 - low level. From 32 to 52 - the average degree of loneliness. From 52 to 62 - a high degree of loneliness, while those who scored over 62 points, are people with very high degree of loneliness.
The higher the level of loneliness, the greater the discomfort felt people from his state. In general, for clarity, we can say that at the beginning of this scale is "Boldino autumn" - the creative and intellectual peak, for which the communication is almost not necessary, but at its end - cri de coeur: "Talk to me at least someone!" . Accordingly, the choice of leisure in such polar cases will vary greatly.
Except, perhaps, ideological "Singletons", most singles to communicate desires. For example, according to the analysis VTsIOM, more than half are looking for salvation from loneliness in positive contact with family and friends (52%). Most of the other methods is also associated with "access to the people": 16% saved interests and hobbies, 14% immersed in the work on going contact with pets (10%), communication on the Internet, sports, education, etc. Therefore, the main question of the organization Leisure - guessing the company of like-minded.

My tongue ...

modern loner, due to the high educational qualifications As a rule, likes to relax "with meaning" - sometimes extreme, often - actively, but with comfort. Therefore, for them almost perfect sea journey. No wonder: this holiday, first of all, very convenient, as modern cruise ships are more like five star hotels. Second, the diverse: the majority of tours are full of excursions, and life on board is usually diversify performances of professional artists. Thirdly, enables the active and positive communication. And fourthly, importantly, allows you to save individual habits, so dear to lonely people.
Statistics, which knows all, confirms the popularity of sea adventures. So, according to the national company "Metropolis Cruise - Russia's only national operator of sea cruises - singles share in such tours is on average 44%, and the gender split roughly in half (men slightly less, 49%).
However, there are also some nuances: the fact that the full communion to which the majority seeks to single possible only in their native language. Unfortunately, the polyglot, knowing at an acceptable level of English, French or German (the main means of communication in international cruises), a very, very little. Yes, and they often feel uncomfortable in an unfamiliar cultural environment. Therefore, international tours, where the majority are English-or German-speaking tourists, are often unattractive for smaller language groups, for example - Russian. The reason - a sense of isolation and a certain inclusiveness - by virtue of "language" is closed.
«Entertainment in international cruises, - says Olga Kilimnik, director of" Metropolis Cruise "- many not available because of language barrier. Tours in Russian ports of call are very few and some none at all, due to lack of Russian-speaking guides. In addition, because Russian groups are scarce, the price and the possibility of trips depends on the number of applicants, which irritates the tourists. I should add that foreign cruise companies consciously regulate the number of Russian tourists, loss of 5-10% of the total number of passengers in a particular cruise. This is due not only to the national characteristics of Russians, but also the reputation of the country's narrow-minded perception of European or American consumers. " Clearly, this "ghetto" substantially limits the ability of real-world communication.
As a consequence, "reflexivity" (the number of people wanting to go again on a holiday) in international cruises is low. According to the company, only 11% completely satisfied with this rest. "As a rule, - says Olga Kilimnik - a young, energetic people, who know foreign languages, comfortable feel and easy-oriented in the alien environment. Nevertheless, they too confirmed that he was pleased to use domestic products in the presence of such a proposal at the right moment for the region ».
On the other hand, national Cruises - and Russia, and elsewhere - are impressive repayment, which reaches 90%. This is due to the conscious orientation of the organizers of the peculiarities of the mentality and habits of their fellow citizens. "Our compatriots, - says Olga Kilimnik, - very curious and hungry for new experiences. Therefore, in port we are doing more prolonged than that of foreign companies. At each park, we offer several tours to choose from. At the same time trying to make a tourist was time for independent exploring, for the implementation of personal plans. On the other hand, mono-- "their" - a single medium significantly increases the chances of occurrence in this or that company. Simply because in the usual choice of language environment such groups significantly more ».
Given the specific mentality is formed and a plan of in-flight entertainment. For example, in "Russian" cruises a lot of emphasis on educational program - our people love to learn. Perhaps this is due to traditionally high enough educational level of cruise tourists. Accordingly, the increase and the possibility of connecting people with the same interests.

Solitude in the path

As is clear from the statistics, there are always people who out of loneliness does not suffer and almost never need to communicate. For them, the rest - it's often the possibility of solitude. However, active and educational tourism, and love them, though, for its specificity. So convinced alone, as a rule, like the solo trip without a rigid schedule and bind to the route.
Opportunities for such people today abound: book hotel, rent a car, scooter or even bicycle through the Internet, the benefit of services that can make it fast and reliable, very much. It's enough initial knowledge of English (though you can do without them).
For example, the international service of booking (there is also Russian version) only need to enter into an interactive window necessary data (requirements for number, direction and date of arrival), and booking is done automatically. Then an electronic document, which can be obtained by e-mail or just print directly from the site. This booking confirmation is needed in obtaining a visa. The choice of options for hotels is very high: over 86 000 hotels of various star around the world! A sister site to datscha-booking is possible, without looking up from his computer to find the apartment almost anywhere in the world - from Bulgaria to Oceania.
Without leaving your home you can easily buy a ticket or just a few "clicks", rent a car, but for fans of eco-friendly transport - bikes. For example, going to St. Petersburg, you can pre-book a "two-wheeled horse" in the chain stores Velodrayv. All the fun will cost 700 rubles per day, and forever stuck in traffic jams Northern Palmira will be much more accessible and welcoming. In Europe, however, to get a great and not a problem: in many countries, for example - in Denmark and the Netherlands, free public bikes are in special racks: leave a small amount of coin, to decouple transport from the castle - that's all, you can go. A coin can be returned, putting great in any other car rental counter.
Not need to communicate and most modern museums: instead of a guide you can take interactive headphones and tell, and show "all the fun, the choice of language is quite extensive. One of the first two years ago introduced the innovation Louvre. Visitor for a small fee can rent minicomputer, "PDA," equipped with headphones and an interactive screen with which to select the desired function. In memory of "gadget" provides information on most of the most interesting exhibits, in addition, it is possible to choose the most convenient route (a total of 15, extending from 45 minutes to 2 hours). Service is supported by the web site monguide.louvre.fr (here is the link to the English version, Russian, unfortunately, not), with which you can pre-plan your visit. Interestingly, the comments submitted as a dialogue with the tourists, that sounds much more lively and interesting than the standard academic text.
Short, to persuade the lone our time provides plenty of interesting opportunities for recreation. And most importantly, that even pay for all these pleasures can be no personal contact - just a plastic payment card.

Be alone - not too bad, because the loneliness, how ironic noticed the famous Russian psychologist Levi, - "the main force that unites people and in general all living things ... Like the magnetic particles, we attract to each other by their loneliness - merge, merge them together - and to live ...". And most importantly, that in our days prior to any person, alone or not, opening up limitless opportunities in the work and rest.

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